Worst Advice Approach

Advice. We will given in one point of our lives from the smallest matter of hygiene, behavior and fashion to the biggest aspect like life, religion and love. We ourselves might have given a word of advice to others yet.

We all need some sort of reminder to keep us on track towards being a better self. We also desire others to fix on their small details and become brighter in their act but sometimes, there is just something that blocks this simple revolutionary action from triggering its changing chain which is the method of giving the counsel itself.

There are several persons who prefer giving verbal help in the form alike of machine guns, blabbering all they could without even aiming at the details. Some are more precise like a sniper, sniping at the very essentials of another's problematic core for building up their inner selves.

Nevertheless, what I wanna say in this post is some form of wordings that I find we should not use when we utterly start to talk about our greater view on other's dilemma. Use any of these issues, BOOM, our constructive criticisms are denied because it sounds self-centered.

1) Age factor

We definitely know how this jeez go. An older senior comes at our face starts to spits his verse and when we want to give a reply, they will simply respond with a -"I know what I'm saying, you know nothing at all, I am older than you and I know more about life than you so shut up and suck it up"- sort of respond which we can only condone without the feeling of needing to change how we behave.

Age does NOT effect much of our wisdom, our environment does. Grow a kid in a very modest family then compare the kid to another grown up man who is living much of his life in a completely desolated neighborhood. Who has the better credibility to give a verse on attitude? The probably screwed up man? Nope.

Age should never be used as a leverage against another. It is as how an old man who never uses the internet giving a word of false mint to a newer generation who are IT-savvy about how to use the net. Does age helps the old man learn the complexion of the web? Nay, it is the situation of the environment they lived in which forms what they are today.

2) Group factor

Now. this one is a little bit subtle. We rarely use it, feel it or realize it. But when we do, we tend to make a big deal out of it either the giver or the receiver. I know in certain cases, this sort of reasoning is valid such as how an economist and a scientist can only speak regarding their own field of expertise not another.
But that is not the the type of dispute I am marking. I wanna to scope about certain individuals that quarrels toting their degree as a gun to preach even on every field they are oblivious. Stereotyping that their group are capable of doing what other persons in that group are capable of.

As an example, not all parents can claim of knowing how to raise a child. Each couple cannot simply state to another "You should raise your son like we do". Maybe we are experts in our own kids, but we are definitely not on another's.

The same goes when we are giving a piece of our beneficial opinions. We will never be successful if we try to deliver our message towards one another even if we are from the same group or have faced the same situation because every individual receives, reacts and responds uniquely. We might have been in the same turf but we have never been in the same shoes.

3) Simple Conclusion

A reminder is not about us winning the argument, it is about the receiver accepting the message that we are relaying. Tone down our voice, soften down our words and try to see their problems in their own perspective.

A friendly advice is not an advice without friendly words and no one likes a stranger giving mass opinions regarding our concern which only contains the sound of an ego.

Let us reconsider about our methodology of flailing our wisdom around.